#UnApologetic

Lately, I’ve been going through a personal metamorphosis. The process hasn’t been easy and has stripped me down to the core and left me standing bare, unafraid, and living my truth. I just got off of the phone with one of my mentors. I was telling her, “I have allowed the picture of who I SHOULD be and what I SHOULD be doing and what my life SHOULD look like to literally blind me to the beautiful reality of what my life really is.” She was quick to tell me that I care too much about the wrong people, things, and stuff. Her words were, “Your primary goal should be to be happy with yourself. When we hang up this phone, I want you to be UNAPOLOGETIC about who you are and just LIVE Robin.”

Sound familiar to anyone?

This conversation really made me THINK! Many of us spend a great deal of our lives apologizing to others for just about everything. Apologizing becomes so second nature until sometimes we don’t even know why we’re apologizing. GEESH!

7 Things to Stop Apologizing For NOW!

1. Being Yourself- No person is worth more or less than any other. Remind yourself. Loving yourself should mean never having to say you’re sorry.

2. What You Look Like- Women are taught to seek forgiveness for physical flaws at a young age. I can’t change my face or my body (plastic surgery is not for me) and I don’t want to want to anymore. I have a few curves and that’s it.

3. Being Career Driven- Although I don’t live to work, I do understand the concept. I love my career. Yes, I said it! I have many friends with the same profession and sometimes we get together and tell stories about “the job.” You worked hard for your career. Stop apologizing.

4. The Mistakes of Your Past-We all have a past. It happened, you did it or participated and that’s okay. The sooner you own it, the sooner you can forgive yourself and move on. Forgive yourself. That's it.

5. Wanting to Find Love- Never say you’re sorry for trying to find it. There is something absolutely cathartic, breathtaking and exhilarating about love that keeps us coming back for more.

6. How You Spend Your Money-It’s yours, you worked for it so spend it the way you desire. If you're Blessed, be a Blessing to others. Finished!

7. Your Interests, Talents, and Aspirations- Your interests, talents, and aspirations are entirely your own. Never feel as if you have to justify something you love, whether it's yoga, dancing, an impressive collection of cars, or knowing everything there is to know about cooking, make-up, and sewing. As the saying goes, just do you.

Takeaway: Apologizing when you've clearly hurt someone else, violated a rule, or done something you know to be wrong is a necessary step in repairing the social fabric that keeps us connected. But saying sorry for things you aren’t responsible for will only invalidate you and reinforce feelings of low self-worth.

Improve your flaws but LOVE YOURSELF. Please don’t apologize for being the wonderful person God created you to be.

Just Live!

One Love,

Robin