Hi Friends,
It seems like it's been forever since I last blogged. I took some much needed time out to get my head together and to focus on “me.” Let me tell you, I needed this time. Having suffered the lost of one of my best friends, a few strained relationships and the end of a romantic relationship forced me to strip myself down to the core to self-reflect. During this time, I had the chance to start from scratch and build on a foundation of strength, clarity and forgiveness, rather than attempting to reconstruct myself from the ruins of the old me. I needed a “Love Cleanse.”
For those of you who follow the quotes I post on Facebook and Twitter, they are from Mastin Kipp, the founder of The Daily Love. Kipp has created a 30-day “Love Cleanse” designed to wash away the remnants of past relationships, cleanse your emotions and spirit of residual baggage, and help you gain a fresh perspective on life and love.
This “Love Cleanse” consists of:
1) No dating-Come on you can go 30 days.
2) No flirting (which obviously includes giving out the digits, initiating conversation with a boy you happen to find attractive, etc.) This one was hard for me!!!!
3) No kissing (or any other physical activity, for that matter)
4) No obsessing, ruminating, cyber stalking, and no mentally or physically engaging with anyone with whom you have a history of drama or are seeking to break free from. I made a clean break!
5) Increasing physical activity. Mastin’s recommendation is yoga. I haven’t made it yet but I did make contact for information with a local yoga instructor.
6) Living healthy –Think fresh veggies, lots of fruit, plenty of water…and it is also strongly recommended that you try organic, less processed foods. Also – make sure you get PLENTY of rest. I’m learning how to come home and do absolutely nothing; it’s refreshing.
7) Journal your experience, every morning and every night. It will give you an excellent point of reference at the end of your cleanse to go back and see how you grew and progressed and even healed throughout the process. This one was easy for me because I’m either writing or thinking about writing.
I recently celebrated my 40th birthday as a single woman. By this time, I thought I would be happily married with three children and a dog-LOL, but this is the life the Creator has given me and I am embracing it. I try to live each day like it's my last. I love my life and the things I have had the chance to experience. But I realize that it’s important to allow self-reflection time between relationships or loss of any kind. It’s even more important to realize that you can be attached and miserable or available and happy. The right one will come.
Forever, the new “me” is here to stay!
One Love,
Forty & Fabulous Robin
Reference
http://www.examiner.com/single-women-in-nashville/mandy-hale
After having ended a recent relationship myself, I have decided to stay single for much longer than 30 days. I am not dating for 6 months. It will give me time to focus on my goals and myself. Plus, it will be good for the next relationship if I have completely let go of the last :)
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Wishing you well. Enjoy your single time. Continue to use it for the good of you.
I can relate to the act of 'self-reflect'. I have been there & now as a gift to myself I indulge in 'self-reflect' whenever I feel myself 'falling'. To 'self-reflect' I took the spiritual route. I focused on my inner self & released to God via meditation, prayer, & devotion. Best thing I ever did to myself. I now can be more assertive & decisive w/ confidence.
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